Community-Building in your Area

Consistency & Proximity - showing up for people on a regular basis is paramount to building a community that you can rely on when you need it. Just like any other goal, you have to be consistent to see results. You won’t have a village, if you are not a reliable villager. 

Similarity - find and pour into people that have similar interests and values to you. We like and want to spend time with people who we feel understood by so finding people that have some similarities to you is important to feeling like you belong in your village.

Familiarity - you don’t feel familiar or comfortable with someone you just met and it will feel a little awkward when you’re first making friends but it’s important to keep spending time with them to build that comfortability and familiarity. Familiarity builds safety which enhances the strength of a community and makes you feel comfortable.

Reciprocity - doing things without expecting something in return is key to being a good villager. You never know when people are going to reciprocate because we cannot control other people’s actions but reciprocating good energy and favors without knowing if/when that will be “paid back” is incredibly powerful to people in your village and important for finding people who trust and care about you in the ways you need.

Bravery - you might have to go first. You might have to be the one to introduce yourself or the one that gets rejected a couple of times but trying is better than staying isolated and becomes easier with practice.